How does being a Surrogate Impact my Kids?
Dear Mindful Surrogate:
We are so excited to embark on this journey with you as our surrogate. We understand that to qualify to be a surrogate you must have had children of your own. Have you given any thought to how this surrogacy would impact your children?
Sincerely,
Hopeful parents
Dear Hopeful Parents,
This is such a great question! Yes, I have had many conversations with my children about this process. I have explained to them that mommy is helping someone grow their family. I am a repeat surrogate and my children were 4 and 9 years old when I started my first journey. Even at those ages they were able to understand on a very basic level that it was not their brother or sister that I was pregnant with. I actually think the 9-year-old was relieved to know that it was NOT another pesky little sibling for him. Throughout that 1st journey, and after, we just normalized it in our household. So, when I embarked on my 2nd journey there wasn’t even a need for a big conversation. Overall, the surrogacy process has given me more confidence as a woman and a mother and I know that will have a positive effect on my children. They also get to see me do something amazing for someone else!
Sincerely,
The Mindful Surrogate